My journey since then has taken me on a path of self-discovery. With no work and no direction I “found” my way into complementary therapy when I stumbled upon an article about aromatherapy. As I read about hands-on healing and how aromatherapists use natural oils and massage to soothe and comfort, the hairs on my arms stood up. There was a big ‘yes’ within me at the idea of something so good coming out of my own trauma.
I instantly knew that this was my new vocation and booked myself onto a year’s full-time diploma at The Tisserand Institute. And as I started the course the part of the diploma that surprised me the most and ultimately helped me to heal was the Energy Healing Module – it totally blew my socks off. We learnt a variety of healing techniques that channel energy into you by means of touch, to activate the natural healing processes of your body. And these worked incredibly well for me, helping to release my hurt and trauma over losing John.
I have learnt that the pain of losing a baby through miscarriage lessens over time, but you never forget (and why should you forget your beloved child who is still a part of your family?). I’ve learnt that your friends and family become uncomfortable when you talk about it constantly, so you have to keep your feelings over your miscarriage to yourself. I’ve learnt that it puts a strain on your relationships and that you can spiral downwards into depression, guilt and blame. And I’ve learnt that it is possible to carry babies to term even after losing a baby to miscarriage – we now have two teenage daughters.
I have let go of all those difficult emotions and I’m happy to say that I’m now mostly a happy-go-lucky and calm person like I used to be!
I’ve transformed myself with others’ help. It has taken me a long time and I wish I’d known at the time about the tools that have helped me so much. But I also know, no matter how long ago it happened, we can still heal and find closure today.
Since then I have I have retrained as a Holistic Complimentary Therapist, and now have a diploma in Aromatherapy and a Postgraduate Diploma in Pregnancy and Post Natal Aromatherapy. I have also mastered different forms of Energy Healing (including Reiki), Hypnosis, Vitali Chi and Wellbeing Coaching as well as The Energy Alignment Method (EAM) that worked so well to release my own trauma. All these disciplines and treatments give me the tools I need to heal you holistically and help you let go of the trauma of miscarriage.
I now spend my time working as a therapist, using these tools to help hundreds of clients let go of difficult feelings and rediscover happiness. So I know what the journey to healing is like. It isn’t always easy, but it is so worth it to get the sunshine back in your life.
What lights me up now is enabling women to get to a place of happiness and joy in life again. When they leave my healing room they have ALWAYS transformed in some way. My mission is to heal more women in the way I was healed and I feel privileged to do so.